Stop Talking and Listen to Yourself!

Your Brain and Everyday Talk

by Dalton A. Kehoe & Cover design or artwork by M. Venditto



Book Details

Language : English
Publication Date : 6/8/2021

Format : Softcover
Dimensions : 5x8
Page Count : 150
ISBN : 9781663219183
Format : E-Book
Dimensions : N/A
Page Count : 150
ISBN : 9781663219190

About the Book

This book clarifies how automatic most of our talk is. Using a simple version of our mental processes I show how we easily get along with others but also how things fall apart when we’re threatened. Mostly, we don’t think before we talk. Our talk flows naturally from our adaptive unconscious as it responds to whatever situation we are in. It is drives our talk. To illustrate its power I represent it using the metaphor of the 5-ton working Elephant. Its 110 pound Rider represents our conscious mind. I also summarize all of our talk into three basic forms: CONNECT, CONTROL and DIALOGUE talk. The first two forms demonstrate how we talk to draw people closer to us or dominate them using our adaptive unconscious minds. The third form, shows the reader how to “wake up” their conscious mind in difficult situations and speak in order to repair communication disasters.

About the Author

Dalton Kehoe been has been a professor at York University for 50 years. He is now Senior Scholar of Communications Studies in the Communication Studies Department. He specializes in interpersonal and organizational communications and teaches three online courses on these subjects and has written textbooks for all of them.

He has been recognized as one of the top teachers in the province of Ontario by his colleagues and by the Ontario’s educational TV network. Despite being retired for almost 10 years was recently rated as one of the 10 best teachers at York.

He was a very highly regarded workshop leader for the Executive Education Center of the Schulich School of Business at York, leading a very successful seminar named Mindful Management, using his own book of the same name. It was listed as one of the top 5 business books in 2016 by Fortune Magazine.

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