Through the stories of my life I have come to believe that codependence is not part of our abilities but lies within our capacity as people. That we are capable of many things and though many people might say that we are codependent, it just is part of the human condition, it does not have to be true. Independence is not only an idea it is possible in all the relationships we have whether they be personal or material. When it comes to religion and religious leaders, anyone wanting that buy in has a choice to manipulate the knowledge of codependent behavior or to promote self-thinkers within that belief system. Understanding the labels and the need for them, within the capacity of codependence gives us a new insight into what it takes to be an independent believer and lover of God, in all of creation.