Don't Take My Cookie! It Must Be Earned

What Makes My Cookie Crumble Early in my adult hood, it was put to me very methodically. “I want a bad boy to play with and a good man when I am ready to settle down.” Blasphemy I say! This quote gives us a glimpse of what makes a woman’s cookie crumble. It’s like this. women in their youth want a boy who’s bad that has a lot of energy because it feeds into her adventurous nature. When a woman is ready to settle, she wants a man that can fulfill her other wants and desires (protector, provider, comforter, etc.). There is an old saying, “Be careful what you wish for”. It’s no wonder why women are becoming more and more scarred by their youthful bliss. Understand that each negative encounter with the opposite sex breeds resentment, anger, frustration, and a whole host of undesirable behaviors that make it difficult for the next man you choose to call your own. Every event is connected. Let’s take a look at the two more closely. Good Boy vs. Bad Boy Complex You cannot want a boy to fulfill your needs as a woman who is ready to settle down. It won’t work! He is driven by desire not need. The boy’s desires a ride or die chick that is on call and willing to do whatever. The boy desires a woman who will fight side by side with him through thick and thin. The boy desires the hot passionate aggressive sex that comes with youth and Viagra. The boy can deal with her bouts of uncontrolled anger and fighting so he can impose his will (control) over her. The boy doesn’t care if she wants his money as long as he gets what he wants (sex, sex, and more sex). The boy is wild, insensitive, and reckless. It takes a girl to handle a boy. Girls are still unstable in their own right. Because of each others instability, they are a very good match to handle one another’s’ ignorance. Yes, yes, yes. I know. Many women like the thought of having a boy around their neck because he is much more trainable than men are. Mistake, mistake, mistake! After he has used you and you have trained him up, he will leave you for a younger and more trainable girl. That’s right. All of your efforts will be in vain. Remember. Men are simple. The boy doesn’t understand the complexities you went through to get him to where he is. He is just along for the ride. He doesn’t mind being in the passenger’s seat as long as he gets his ice cream cone along the way. The boy doesn’t know what commitment is because he is still young. He has a lot of life to live. His responsibilities are kin to taking the trash out, finding and keeping a job, keeping his baby mommas happy so she doesn’t put him on child support; you get the picture. He is just all wrong. Save yourself the time and the energy it takes to endure his youthful pains. If you want something more worth your while, I suggest seeking a man to fulfill those needs. A man wants more of the finer things in life. He is reserve in his execution. Instead of being spontaneous and carefree he calculates for the most opportune moments to unleash a barrage of blissful moments thus enticing her to the peak of ecstasy. He needs a woman who is passionate not aggressive. He needs a woman who is understanding and patient. He needs a woman who adores him and isn’t using him for selfish reasons. He needs a woman whose intentions are unselfish in nature. A man is not trying to control her but complement her. A man tries to bring his woman up to a standard conducive to an equal partner to everything he has. A man needs a companion not an adversary. A man wants unconditional love. A man desires making love instead of beating it up. It takes a woman to handle a man. You cannot attempt to control a man without injury because he is sure in what he wants and what he does not want. He is confident that his decisions will work and doesn’t allow anyone to force his decisions otherwise. The games girls play do not work unless he allows them to because it is the difference between playing chess instead of checkers. He studies the motives of a woman. He doesn’t allow himself to be over taken by the things she presents that will benefit him. Men are necessary for women to evolve to their highest potential. The more you play with boys the longer you delay your own maturation.