The Art and Science of Dating

IF A WOMAN IS A TREASURE, SHE IS ATTRACTIVE

What does it mean “to attract?” Attracting a man means you motivate him toward you. You act, speak, flirt, emote, intending to get a result. One man observes you and, as a result, he acts, thinks, behaves, or emotes. He has his own internal rules in his mind. He may like trying to do what every one else is doing. Or he may be trying to hit on a date as soon as possible. At a party, there are several men. But you want to attract a certain man. So you have to motivate your desired man specifically. Other men may respond to your flirting; perhaps your “flirtee” does not pick up the ball. So you motivate him based on his rules and desires (not yours), and you have to get the results you want.

Visualize another case. The woman is ten years older than the man. She is 30 pounds overweight and has a birthmark on her face. BUT her voice is like silk, soothing him and seducing him. He has an erection in ten minutes because of her voice. She is witty. She tells entertaining stories. She listens well and is sympathetic when he talks, mirroring his feelings. She speaks with an exact and educated vocabulary. She makes thoughtful comments that stimulates his imagination. She shows respect and admiration. She pays her half of the bill. She is difficult to persuade to go on another date. The difficulty gains his respect. She is a treasure and he feels honored to even speak with her. He would just like the pleasure of bringing her flowers to witness her appreciation. Going to bed is far back in his priorities. When he sees his buddies, he praises her. He may not want them to see her because of her looks. But he dwells on her until he can meet her again. He is particularly astonished that such a plain woman can be so alluring. This makes her even more magnetic.

To interest a man, you have to get through the first date by exhibiting your treasures. If you are a normal, plain looking woman, you will note his sneer or his cold shoulder at first. Glow and dazzle. Charm and seduce. Your voice, your eyes, your confidence, your grooming, your engrossing conversation, your mysterious distance, your appropriate level of rapport—these soon blur your appearance. If you are stunning, you may like to hide some of your physical beauty so it gradually appears. This causes an increase in his interest on the second or third date.

By the time you finish this book and some of the recommended books, you will know how to be a treasure. Your thinking results in your habits. Your habits result in your treasure, Your treasure results in your destiny. If you take action so you are indeed a treasure, you will be in control of your destiny with men.

THERE ARE FOUR WAYS TO CONVINCE A MAN TO MOVE

1. Reincarnation
Let him know that if he has you, he will live forever.
Let him discover that if he fathers your children, he will live on in them.
Let him believe that whatever he does for you will not be forgotten in his next life.
Let him know that he will go to heaven if he is an angel to you.
To sympathize with him, feel your own motivation to live forever.
Inspire him with lofty aims.

2. Romance

Sex is an obvious motivator. More refined sex, or sophisticated sex, or pleasant sex, or sex that makes him believe he will live forever is highly motivating. Reading this book, you will learn how to use romance as a motivator. Some men even like gentle moments, comfortable events, companionship in the nest, tenderness in sex. You can relate to your own motivation toward sexual adventures.

If you sense your own sexual drive, then you can understand and motivate thru his drive better. Multiply your lust by ten or a hundred. That is how much men are motivated by romance.

3. Recognition

Men need respect and admiration, appreciation and approval. Men are often motivated more by respect and admiration, appreciation and approval, from a certain prestigious group.