STOP Talking To Me
How to silence your inner critic and pivot your thoughts from negativity to positivity in four simple steps.
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INTRODUCTION We all talk to ourselves. Admit it. There is a voice inside of your head that talks to you all the time, whether it is audible or stays within the space between your ears. Additionally, we listen to this voice and rely on it to help us make decisions, process situations, respond to others, and even determine our current emotional state. I call this the voice within. Managing the voices within can make the difference between being a positive, successful, stable, happy, and well-adjusted person and being a negative, frustrated, unhappy person, as well as being anything in-between. Picture yourself walking down a busy downtown street in New York City. Ever passed through a crowd of people and wonder what it would sound like if you could hear their thoughts? I’d imagine it might sound a little like a cacophony of these statements: • “I’ve gotta get to that meeting on time, I’m going to be late, I’m going to be late. ..” • “I can’t believe he said that to me. What is he thinking? . . .” • “How in the world am I going to get that sales copy done by noon today? They’re going to find out what an imposter I am. . . .” • “I can’t do this. God, my life is so pointless. I am so bored with this job. . . .” • “I am running this meeting at 1:00, and I am flying by the seat of my pants. . . .” • “I know why he hasn’t called, it’s because I’m not good enough for him. Am I not pretty enough, not thin enough, not smart enough? I wonder what it is. . .” • “Why can’t I get my success faster? I’m so tired of trying. I want it now, not next year. I really want it now. . . .” • “I can’t wait for the weekend. The weather will probably suck, though, and the traffic out of the city will be horrible. . . .” • “I should call my mother tonight, even though she’s a pain and always asking why I can’t be like my older brother. Still, she’s my mother (sigh). . . .” Got the picture? Have you ever noticed your own inner voice? Is it typically positive or negative? Pay attention for the next week and see. My own inner voice has been talking to me for years, but mostly in a positive way. Recently, at the age of 44, I heard it again as I was compiling a list of things I wanted to do or accomplish in my life before I die. The first thing that came to mind (again, from my voice within) was—WRITE A BOOK—loud and clear. I have stifled this inner voice for too long. I have spent years talking to myself about my abilities, my truths, my appearance, my relationships, and my accomplishments; and I have learned that the way you talk to yourself and manage those voices within will set the tone of your expectations and your results. If you talk negatively to yourself, you set the tone of failure and disappointment. If you talk positively to yourself, you set the tone of success and happiness. It really is as simple as that. It is the simple process of listening to the coach within instead of the inner critic. The coach within is your spirit, which supports you, believes in you completely, and wants to be heard more frequently. Who will believe in you more than yourself? Listen to that coach within and ignore the critic inside who’s been trained to identify all your faults. With this book, I hope to share some simple and practical lessons I’ve learned, some tried and true techniques, and some practical approaches to talking to yourself differently and listening to that coach within rather than the inner critic. IF YOU WANT TO, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Life is change. Nothing ever stays the same. Think about it. Each day is a new day, with something different from the day before. Learn to embrace the change and find beauty in it—and your life will become effortlessly enriched.
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Have you ever been aware of your thoughts and noticed how many are negative versus how many are positive? Did you know that if you talk negatively to yourself, you set the tone of failure and disappointment, while talking positively to yourself sets the tone of success and happiness? STOP Talking To Me will teach you how to turn your negative thinking into routine positive thinking, so that you will set the stage for your happiness and success. The simple S-T-O-P process which accompanies each specified emotion, along with the examples and stories will enable you to learn to pivot your thoughts and become that positive minded person you’ve always admired. Better yet, the book is specifically designed to be small enough to carry with you, so that you will have it handy whenever you find yourself in the realm of negative thinking! IF YOU WANT TO, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE. All you have to do is to take the next step forward.
About the Author
Lynn Zettler was the eldest daughter in a family of 6 children and a multitude of foster children. “Take the situation which is dealt to you and making the best of it” was a constant montra in her childhood household. Growing up in a full house of children with little money for the family, Lynn took the montra to heart at a young age and paid her own way through her high school and college years. Lynn married her high school sweetheart and love of her life at the age of 21, where this positive attitude was reinforced and magnified. Lynn’s successful 25 year professional career included roles as a Research and Product Development Chemist at Case Western Reserve University and Ceilcote Corporation, as well as Patent Information Specialist, Patent Agent, Intellectual Capital Manager and Global Intellectual Property Development Leader at The Dow Chemical Company and Dow AgroSciences. In 2005, Lynn discovered her passion for coaching; established LifeAction Coaching, Inc. in 2006; graduated from Coach University in 2008; and obtained her Associate Certification in Coaching through the International Coaches Federation in May of that same year. Lynn’s mission statement is: To continuously enhance the lives of others through coaching and creating value. “Through my relationships, resourcefulness, actions and genuine caring for people, I inspire my clients to reach for and attain the growth and faith needed to bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be.” Lynn lives with her husband, Mark, in Carmel, Indiana. Her thriving coaching business primarily serves women business owners and professionals, and specializes in eliminating “Your Big But”. You can find Lynn at www.lynnzettler.com .